onlinecounsellingcollege:

“As time goes on, you’ll understand. What lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time can’t solve, you have to solve yourself.”

— Haruki Murakami

"…And please remember that you were beautiful before he told you that you were."

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girlsuggestion:

don’t do SHIT for a boy. don’t shave for a boy. don’t fake your interests for a boy. don’t leave school for a boy. don’t lose weight for a boy. and don’t cry for a boy. the world is full of boys but there is only one of you.

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"And so I try to be kind to everything I see, and in everything I see, I see him."

Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life
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"I’m so afraid of losing something I love that I refuse to love anything"

Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close (via visionofagentlecoast)

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"If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate."

C. JoyBell C.  (via her0inchic)

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Tips for Dealing with Rejection

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. First, recognise that not everyone is like you. We have different likes and dislikes, we want different things, and we all see people and the world in different ways. Hence, it is natural that sometimes people will be upset, offended, or react differently from what we expected. It’s not necessarily personal – it’s more a reflection of the fact that we are different.
2. Try and leave your emotions aside and objective analyse the situation. Ask yourself: “Is this person’s reaction triggering something me?” It could be that you are over-reacting to a perceived rejection because of previous hurts, put downs and rejections. Alternatively, the other person’s reaction could be more related to what is going on in their life at the time (rather than being a personal rejection of you.)
3. Be alert to over-generalising and over-personalising. For example, look out for the tendency to think things like that “That means I’m a terrible person, and no-one likes me” or “I never do anything right. I always say and do the wrong thing. I’m always going to get it wrong and be rejected by everyone.”
4. Look for friendships and affirmation in other places. It’s wise to have a wide range of friends and acquaintance so that our self-image and self-esteem aren’t tied into how a few key people treat us, or react towards us.
5. Accept that snubs and rejections are part of life. We can’t please all of the people all of the time – we can only please some of the people some of the time. And while it’s wise to check to see if we display certain habits, traits or behaviors that often annoy others (and it is wise to work on changing those), at the end of the day we have to be ourselves. We can’t spend our lives walking on egg shells, or trying to be someone we were never meant to be.

"Sometimes you end up never speaking to someone who meant the world to you again. And that’s okay. You cope and you survive. Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains."

I wish someone had told me this when I was hurting, y.g.  (via her0inchic)

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"As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are - what others say is irrelevant."

Nic Sheff (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

"And then she told herself, “Stop being so weak. Grow up and get over it.” and then she never felt anything again."

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